Jun 12, 2017

Sleepless nights

It has been more than two months almost. I am still grappling with the fact that I can't sleep. It is 5 in the morning here and I slept for maybe an hour in between.

The restlessness that you get when you have to catch a flight/train very early in the morning and you have maybe an hour or a half to rest when you are in fact very sleepy after a long day but still can't obviously afford to fall asleep in case you miss it, is permanent in my case.

I need the sleep, but I can't have it. And God only can help for I don't know where to go to find peace and solace.

May 10, 2017

Short Essay: #10 - Do women make better parents than men, as they mostly have a greater role in parenting; or are men just as good?

Many people believe that women make better parents than men and that this is why they have the greater role in raising children in most societies. Others claim that men are just as good as women at parenting.

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Mothers have been the caregiver of almost all species for as long as life has existed. Naturally, one would say that mothers, that is females are better at being the major role player in bringing up the offspring.

Though natural reason holds its place, we can argue that humans' life and way of living is categorised in civilisations. Civilisations, by definition mean that greater number of factors and reasons are at play when we talk any activity that we can possibly talk about. One of those factors is the roles that women and men play in today's modern society.

Men are no longer the only meat-hunters, the bread-earners and the crop-growers in any of the major society in existence today. Similarly, women are no longer seen or limited to birthing and taking care of the babies and other household activities. Yes the boundaries still exist but those aren't the obvious roles men and women play in the household.

With changing of these roles, a change in how children are brought up has changed. Other factors like the recent acceptance and recognition given to homosexual couples have always contributed to how many families work. Men, in many developed nations are often the caregivers and play a major role in bringing up the children while women realise their career dreams.

Men who voluntary and actively take up the responsibility of taking care of children at home prove to be very good at it too. I personally know a person in my family who is a freelancer and works from home part time; has taken care of the children right from their birth as much as their mother have and it is a very happy family indeed.

While this is all good, and men do prove to be good at the job, it can also be seen and argued that children, specially in young age, gravitate towards their mother for emotional support more than their fathers. I believe it is a hard-wired relflex that is built in all children that they are comforted more with the presence of their mothers in most of the cases when a comparison is done.

So the flux of the arguments can be given in that while mother and fathers can both provide for and play a major role in bringing up the children, natural selection and primal instincts make children and mothers attached at a deeper level then children and fathers.


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May 9, 2017

Short Essay: #9 - Is it sometimes necessary and/or right for a government to try to control the population through different means

It is not justifiable, nor necessary for any government of any nation to try to control its population for any reason possible. The only exception may arise in extreme circumstances for a small very big nation in the most exceptional times, like severe famine or continuous war. Though even these circumstances need to be assessed for alternative measure before actually opting for population control measures.

In current times, with uncontrollable rise of capitalism in democratic, as well as some communist nations like china, the concept of population aversion have also gained momentum. Population is shown to be a logistic and statistic nightmare and a major destabiliser towards long-term planning and execution of government initiatives. People even have started to estimate and put out theories that unchecked population increase may lead to a time where resources simply fall short. This isn't correct.

Any attempts by a government trying to control its population have and will prove to be short sighted and a mistake in correct estimation of the root of problem. The problem lies not in resources and population ratio; but rather in unequal and unfair distribution of those resources among people. A problem often associated and recognised more and more these days, with crony capitalism. The basic tenet of capitalism, that is the amount of importance put on generating and optimising profits results in practices like drip-down economy and putting too much power into the hands of people right at the top. Capitalism also results in unfair practices and corruption which whole industries involve in just to make profits. A good example of this would be the pharmaceutical industry which has caused unnatural elongation of lifespans in most developed countries and hence putting more pressure on new generations and upcoming population.

If distributed fairly, while controlling corruption in important industries, a government can ensure that the resources available to it are enough for its population.

The last point, that is of moral correctness, is as important as the necessity one. While a government might feel, in all honestly that it should try to take steps which are for the greater good of the greater population, it is morally not correct for a government to exercise control in something so private as future generation planning of its citizenry. It destroys and tramples on the very basic freedom of a citizen, while proves the incompetency of a government in solving important issues.

No government should have the right to implement laws or start discussions about population control as a means to better management and government.


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May 8, 2017

Short Essay: #8 - 'Graduates should travel or work for a period of time instead of going directly to the university.' Do you agree? Why?

I agree that high school graduates should take a year off and either go travel or do some job or both. The different experiences gained during both serves as a pedestal in transforming one's life in a unique way, unknown to those who move directly from high school to college.

The experiences acquired while travelling can be termed as one of the most important life lessons any person can get. Learning not just how to take care of one's self and his/her most important belongings, one learns, through valuable interactions with different people and groups, how to talk and socialise within society. Socialising, while an exercise done by each of us ever since we start recognising others, is limited while one is attending school. Travel literally, and figuratively expands and opens up a whole new world to us. Working while travelling makes us appreciate how different cities and its people work and earn their bread, and teaches us a lot about their specific culture. Something which merely passing as a stranger and a traveller does not afford.

While life experiences in themselves are a huge __reason__, engaging in work, any sort of work, opens up  a window for a person to peek into a world that lies ahead in his life. It removes the awe and surprises that work life presents when a student finally crosses that bridge. Professions from social work, to hospitality to engineering can vary a lot from what is taught and how exactly work is done in real life.

Sometimes, since the world is progressing at a breakneck speed in some professions, it becomes not just helpful, but a crucial step to have knowledge of differences in industry and school/college syllabi. Taking an example of my own work, joined work after college proved to be quite a handful as computer science being one of the fastest changing and emerging fields all over, a lot of what was taught had either become obsolete or simple moved out of focus by the time college ended.

Though the above are the main reasons why I think graduates should get to travel or work before university, there are many other reasons like, broadening one's mind and way of looking at things, non-separation of education and industry and learning important emotional life lessons can all be worthy incentives for pausing the education and exploring for some time before university starts.


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May 5, 2017

Short Essay: #5 - Is humour different for men and women? Why?

'Humour is a very serious business', someone said once. It indeed is. Humour can cover such large range of topics and understandings that not only is it extremely difficult to classify it into clean big groups, it almost always transcends many boundaries when compared to other human emotions.

Having said that though, if we are talking about comparing general humour for men and women and the disparities in it, we can probably think of a thing or two.
It's all related to how minds of men and women work. How both the genders generally think and what affects and matters more to each of the sexes. Men generally approach subjects with less emotion than women, and women on the other hand are nicer and caring in general. This leads to differences in how a situation is perceived by each one of them.

What might be funny to men might sometimes border on crudeness for women and what might be humorous for women, can totally go unnoticed or unattended by men. Without strictly indulging in stereotypes, it can be argued that a group of boys would laugh at another one tripping and falling on the ground, while that reaction would almost never be shown by a group of girls. Similarly, a girl might laugh more at the funny faces or accents you make than a boy.

Understanding where exactly humour generates from is key to understanding why a group of people might find something funny while another won't. While the above points hold true to a dot, it can also help to look at the different environments and settings a girl child and a boy child is brought up. The general rules and laws break as soon as we put a boy in a big group of girls from the start or vice-versa. Families which have a odd child of a different gender in a pack of 3 or more children are often found to play and do the same things as their siblings do. And in turn their interests, reactions to a certain extent and humour to grow similar to the others in the group they were brought in.

Despite all the reasons and differences though, it isn't that humour is completely different for both men and women. A good joke or a silly incident makes both men and women laugh out in a room the same.


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Topic stolen from a conversation with a close friend.

May 4, 2017

Short Essay: #4 - It has been said, "Not everything that is learned is contained in books."

"Not everything that is learned is contained in books" is one of those phrases, the importance and depth of which only increases as one grows in life, in work or in any relationship. It is a cliché yes, like the synonymous "Experience is the best teacher in life", but it cannot be any more applicable to each and every person's life.

What we learn in books in school is the easier, distilled version of facts even if we consider theoretical text book examples. How something truly works though, is only learned by those who go out and actually do or apply that knowledge of the book. In today's world more so, this is the reason more value has started to be given to practical knowledge than learning what is written in the book.

Also, while the literal interpretation of the phrase is rather easier to understand. We understand that the cliché has more to do with a metaphorical interpretation than the former one. Often, we realise that important life lessons are never present in a book; you simply can't understand how to talk to a certain person from a book; you can't get an expert in negotiation by reading the words written in a book. Not because helpful tips aren't present in thousands and thousands of books; but rather due to the unpredictable nature of such situations.

Similarly, you can't learn how to be most efficient in your particular profession, that knowledge and skill can only be learned from spending time and learning through experience. At the same time, while time and self-learned experience is indispensable, a good mentorship from someone having that experience you will later acquire, can also prove to be multiple times more helpful than what you can get by simply reading a book.

Throughout the passage of time, men and women have learned and passed on knowledge and skills to new learners that are unique in their mediums; for example, a secret family recipe handed down generations to new members; or some exotic art; or advice to people specific to a particular society, lineage, or descent.

In your own experience so far, no matter how old or young you are, your will find that you hold knowledge deep down in your mind, about things you never read anywhere.

It is thus said that one should be humble while at the same time striving to learn new things from wherever he/she can; and pass on that knowledge to those it would help.


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